Women who blame rape victims

Educated women, whom are supposed to know better, are wrapped up in the rape/violence culture, and blame victims, too. 

And if you think things would be better with Hillary Clinton as President, just because she is a woman...think again.

She not only got a rapist off, but laughed about how she knew he was lying…knew that lie detectors were unreliable from that point on.

He sent me flowers today…

A poem, author unknown:

“I got flowers today. It wasn’t my birthday or any other special day.

We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me.

I know he is sorry and didn’t mean the things he said because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today. It wasn’t our anniversary or any special day.

Last night he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn’t believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.

I know he must be sorry because he sent me flowers today, and it wasn’t Mother’s Day or any other special day.

Last night he beat me up again, and it was much worse than all the other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I’m afraid of him and scared to leave.

But I know he must be sorry. Because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today. Today was a very special day.

It was the day of my funeral.

Last night he finally killed me. He beat me to death.

If only I had gathered the courage and strength to leave him.

I would not have gotten flowers today”.
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Janay Rice

By now, you all have heard of Ray Rice knocking his then fiancee unconscious in an elevator…and the slap on the wrist by the NFL.  We’ll get to the NFL later… (meanwhile, Mike Ditka is worried about Ray Rice’s income….seriously.  Not concerned about Rice’s violence…just his paycheck.)

But for now, there are plenty of opinions out there–men who come to his defense and women whom have never been in an abusive relationship that don’t understand why Janay stayed.

And the Guardian’s Hannah Giorgis asks us not to feed an appetite for other people’s lurid trauma by watching the video of Ray assaulting Janay Rice, but to focus on her humanity and the humanity of other survivors of partner violence, to defend them from further victimization both from their abuser and from victim-blamers and tragedy spectators.

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Yep.  There was a woman in Indiana whom was kidnapped and the Associated Press ran a story with all the lurid details of the method of bondage, etc.  I got that “ick” feeling of them wanting to titillate the readers who get off on that sort of thing.

And as far as the black thing–I think about what happened in Fort Wayne with the black man making comments about my body parts and my voice being sexy…and blocking my way into the building…he got the message somewhere that it was okay to do those things.  The other black men thought it was okay.  The black women that he had also intimidated and harassed just wanted to keep things quiet–don’t make any waves.  They, too, have gotten the message that they are less valuable and subject to whomever’s sexual advances or intimidation.  They most likely blame themselves for “asking for it”.

And just recently, a judge in Fort Wayne was called on his behavior when he suggested that a woman could be a great “phone sex operator”.   Why did they think this was acceptable?  Because our culture says it’s okay to describe women in sexual terms and see them only as sexual objects.

In this culture of violence and rape, women are still seen as possessions.  Women are still seen as second class–less than.  If she does assert herself, there are ten others trying to quiet her or take her down.  Uppity women are still seen as bitches who need to get laid.  You might recall the posts on Steubenville and others of women who tried to assert themselves or were assaulted while unable to give consent.

So it’s no surprise to me that Janay stayed and even married her abuser.

We have a culture that men feel they have a right to do as they please–whether it be to smack around their partner…or even kill her if she doesn’t do what he wants.  Eliot Rodger’s misogyny is the best example of that sense of entitlement.

And then we have the bullying culture that actually bullies those who stand up for women whom have been raped.

Don’t make any waves.

Don’t upset the status quo.

Don’t question why.

Don’t assert your right to be recognized as a human being.

Don’t ask to be respected when you have boobs and hips and vagina…

 

 

Happy Labor Day, Mom

Wow. what a great piece.

When I first saw the title, I thought it was going to be a piece on the unsung workforce of women who take care of the home and children…with nary an acknowledgement by law or wages…but I was pleasantly surprised that even though it was about a mother who works outside the home, it held such a great depth and context.

I disagree with the author’s assertion, however, that the education “reformers” don’t seem to grasp the hard-won battles women have had to fight for the same rights that men enjoyed without resistance….

…the “reformers” know EXACTLY what they are doing.  They know that the teacher’s unions have protected working women with equal pay for the same work performed as men teachers, with protection of being dismissed for asserting the same equal rights enjoyed by men such as being able to be married, have children, have reasonable work hours and good pay.  You have to remember who the “reformers” are and their indifference towards women, or worse, loathing of women.

(By a weird circumstance, I belonged briefly to the American Federation of Teachers and was amazed at their strength, unity, and benefits.    It was like nothing I had seen before. )

 

 

 

Condemning mothers

What are your first thoughts after reading this?  “What a terrible mother” “She should lose those kids”

Clearly, they can’t continue living in those conditions….but instead of taking her kids away, how about helping her clean out the place and getting her some help?  Clearly she is overwhelmed with five kids and too many dogs—

…and as usual, the story fails to ask….”where is the father?”  Why is he not helping out–financially, physically, emotionally?  Where were her family members before it got to this point? Is she making a living wage to be able to support herself and her family?

I’m not saying she doesn’t bear responsibility for what happened…but where is the support system?

 

 

Israel bombs another hospital

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They are deliberately bombing hospitals. Stunning example of callous indifference.

And they bombed peaceful civilians that have nothing to do with Hamas at prayer time in the evening–I don’t think this was by accident.  A religious prejudice, it would seem.

I was watching NBC news last night, and the reporter, that was taken out of Gaza, but is now returned, showed EMTs losing it–they are used to see blood and bodies, but even they cannot stand what it happening.  There was utter chaos in the hospital with injured people being turned away because they have no room for any more.

This has to stop.  Has to stop. Now.

 

More on Big Pharma, drug deaths/reactions

I continued to look around for prescription drug deaths, and found a few helpful articles.  Not surprisingly, they come from the natural medicine aspect, with Mercola leading the way:

Prescription drug deaths/reactions.

Total number of prescription drugs, per state. THREE BILLION.  Incredible.  We are a drug nation, with California leading the way.  Good God.

Patient harm in medical care.  Government report here.

The 6 Top Thugs of the Drug world.

I had not seen the vaccine Freedom Wall.  Interesting read of people’s stories.  Why are they not being represented in the media?  Oh, right…every other commercial is a prescription drug…media supported by drug manufacturers is not about to tell the other side of the story….or at least give it much credibility if they do.

I found this compelling story:

Posted: Jun 23, 2014
This is one of 4 vaccine related events I have encountered. I hope to share others in subsequent postings. 2006 my 5 year old received his last recommended vaccines. He is my third child. I had my other two children vaccinated as recommended, but noticed over the years the number of vaccines increasing as well as the popularity of the combo vax. I respected my pediatrician at that time, but felt bamboozled as a throng of papers explaining the vaccines were given to me at the same time the injections were ready to be given. I scanned them quickly, but really had no idea of the true consequences. 12 hours later, he broke out with measles and low grade temp. Ok, not too worried because it can be expected according to doctor and pamphlets. The real surprise was the hives. All of this started at the injection site and rapidly spread to his entire body. I started benadryl and called doctor. I was told “it couldn’t be the vaccine since that would’ve happened at the office”. Luckily, no respiratory compromise occurred. Three days of benadryl. The doctor refused to report this as an adverse reaction. I’ve never vaccinated again. I am a RN, 21 years experience in ER, ICU and PACU. Never had I seen such a bizarre event, but I know it was vaccine related. Fifteen years ago, I would’ve thought blaming vaccines was crazy. After what myself and others have witnessed I don’t believe BIG PHARM is doing what’s best for patients. Please be your own advocate. Educate yourself.
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Note that this is an RN– a medical professional trained to recognize medical issues. The doctor refused to report the adverse reaction.  This, folks, should be a red flag at the scope of the problem–if physicians are not reporting them (there is no penalty for not reporting adverse events).
Another RN speaks out:
Jun 18, 2014
My story isn’t harassment but an assertion about the administration of vaccines. I am a registered nurse and have worked in many roles, school nurse, staff nurse, research nurse (at a top cancer center), telephonic nursing and case management. When I graduated from nursing in the 90’s, I was taught to “aspirate” when giving an IM injection like a vaccine. This means the needle is inserted into the muscle and the plunger is pulled back slightly to insure the needle tip has not entered a vein, This practice is no longer followed. you can google or bing “how to give an IM injection” and you will see that even the cdc does not instruct to aspirate. This is significant because of an experience I had when giving vaccinations to high schools students. To the best of my recollection, i vaccinated 30-40 students that day. I was vaccinating one of the last students, and when I aspirated, i got a surge of blood back in the syringe. Had I not aspirated first, and administered the vaccine, it would have entered his blood stream. I was in the correct anatomical location to administer an IM injection. The blood brain barrier is vulnerable to penetration by some elements, and intramuscular injections are NOT supposed to be given directly into the bloodstream. Today, with so many vaccines given at the same time, the practice of aspiration has been discarded, and I question the consequences of this action and the high rates of autism.
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More here:
May 13, 2014
My child was given the Dtap vaccine about six days ago… Four hours after receiving her third dose of the vaccine she spiked a 102 fever that lasted for five days. She had jerking like convulsions in her sleep and could barely walk for five days. Thank god the fever finally broke today. As far as long term effects I do not know yet what we are facing but I do know I will never vaccinate again..
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Being threatened with Child Services for refusing a Vitamin K shot:
 In the case of my wife and our child, not only are both mother and child not members of any risk factor categories, but my wife has been eating a diet naturally high in vitamin K and taking a prenatal supplement containing additional Vitamin K since well prior to the conception of our child. 9) I can only assume that the combination of all of these factors result in the cumulative risk of my child suffering from long term effects from intracranial hemorrhaging due to VKDB being less than 0.000946% – 0.001548%.
 At this time, based on these numbers and all of the other reasons stated above, I do not find this to be a compelling case to administer this injection to my child. Later in the day on 5/14 we were visited by two doctors who wished to discuss this decision with us.  Both doctors were professional and respectful, provided literature upon request, and were willing to engage in a constructive discussion.  At no time did either doctor indicate that we were not within our legal or medical rights to decline the Vitamin K injection, nor did either doctor indicate that there would be any repercussions taken against my wife or I for this action.  The following day however, a different doctor came to our room just a couple hours before our scheduled discharge for a final evaluation of our daughter.  His hands were visibly shaking during the examination, and he was not speaking much, until he concluded the examination and turned to my wife and I to berate us for our decision to decline the Vitamin K injection.  His scolding was unexpected and unprofessional, and concluded by him telling us we were shameful and that we would be reported to Children and Youth.  He was not interested in discussing our decision with us, or taking the time to get to know more about the patients he was criticizing and reporting to authorities for suspected neglect.  Furthermore, this was the first time we were learning that there was any possibility we would be reported to Children and Youth for declining this injection.
Upon further discussion with the original resident, a social worker, and the operations manager, we were informed of the following: 1) Other parents have also declined the Vitamin K injection for their newborns. 2) This hospital does not have a policy indicating that parents who decline the Vitamin K injection are automatically reported for suspected neglect. 3) We were reported for suspected neglect for no other reason than declining the Vitamin K injection. Based on this information, it seems to me that my wife and I were unfairly accused of being neglectful parents.
 We were subjectively reported for neglect under a non-specific policy that can apparently be invoked or not invoked depending on an individual physician’s preferences.  In other words, another physician on another day may very well not have reported us to Children and Youth for the same action.  In fact, the operations manager even indicated that if this had taken place six months ago, it would likely have not been an issue.  
Also, my wife and I declined the Vitamin K injection for our son who was born in the same room on 7/3/2012, and we were not reported at that time. Based on all of this, I feel that our following patient rights (according to the November 2013 Patient Rights & Responsibilities) may have been violated: 5. A patient has the right to know what hospital rules and regulations apply to his conduct as a patient.  (We were not told that there was any possibility that we would be reported to Children and Youth for declining this injection, until the time the we were told we were being reported.) 8. The patient has the right to full information in layman’s terms, concerning his diagnosis, treatment and prognosis, including information about alternative treatments and possible complications.  (We were told that there are no side effects, when in fact, the package insert for the Vitamin K injection indicates that the injectable form of Vitamin K can cause fatal allergic reactions.) 11. A patient has the right to refuse drugs, treatment, or procedure offered by the hospital, to the extent permitted by law.  (If this is the case, and if the Vitamin K injection is simply a precautionary measure being offered to our child for a condition for which our child was not diagnosed . . . and a condition for which both mother and child had absolutely no signs, symptoms, or risk factors . . . then it was inappropriate to report us for suspected neglect based on the declination of this injection.) 22.
A patient has the right to be informed of his rights at the earliest possible moment in the course of his hospitalization.  (We were not told that there was any possibility that we would be reported to Children and Youth for declining this injection, until the time the we were told we were being reported.) 24. A patient or his or her representative (as allowed under Pennsylvania law) has the right to make informed decisions regarding his or her care . . . including be able to request or refuse treatment in accord with applicable law and regulation.  (If this is the case, and if the Vitamin K injection is simply a precautionary measure being offered to our child for a condition for which our child was not diagnosed . . . and a condition for which both mother and child had absolutely no signs, symptoms, or risk factors . . . then it was inappropriate to report us for suspected neglect based on the declination of this injection.) 40.
A patient has a right to have his or her cultural, psychosocial, spiritual and personal values, beliefs and preferences respected.  (The doctor’s communication with us was very belittling and disrespectful.) My wife and I were having an exceptional delivery experience and stay until this situation occurred.  Unfortunately, this turned what should have been one of the happiest days in the life of our family, into a day of tears and frustration for my wife and I.  
Because of that, I am requesting the following: 1) I would like to be informed as to what is being done to ensure that this doctor will not be permitted to treat ourselves or other patients in this way in the future. 2) I would like to be informed as to how the hospital’s policies, and/or their implementation, will be clarified so that the reporting of parents for suspected neglect will not be done subjectively and arbitrarily, but will be done fairly and consistently. 3) As my wife and I are hoping to have more children in the future, I would like to be informed as to how this situation can/should be handled, both by us and the hospital, in the future so that we can avoid this situation. I look forward to hearing back from you in a timely manner.  Thank you.
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And, finally (although there are plenty more)–preying on the young and vulnerable:
May 11, 2014
When I was 16 I was in for my first doctor’s appt alone. My doctor knew I had never been vaccinated and as a young adult had no interest ongoing against this upbringing. He proceeded to go on and on about it, giving me pamphlets and reiterating that he can “just go prepare the shots” After explaining several times I was NOT interested he finally looked me in the eye and said, “I know this is hard to hear but you may never carry a child to term if you are not vaccinated,” and then something along the lines of the fetus being infected and dying. I was shaking mad and horrified he would say this to me (remember I am 16 at this point) and even more so that he would use this scare tactic with ANYONE. I am healthy, unvaccinated and carried a baby girl (now almost 4 years old) to term just fine. This is fear-mongering. I never went back to that doctor. Please let us continue to make our own choices concerning our health; your body, your choice.
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This is outrageous.  I had not been vaccinated, but had natural immunity with measles, mumps, rubella, and chicken pox — and carried all three of my pregnancies to term.  I had more harm done with Rho-Gam shots containing mercury and God knows what else…
And, this from a healthcare worker who refused to be a sheep, and could not get anyone to back her up:
May 10, 2014
I worked for a hospital who also mandated the flu shot for everyone unless you had a medical condition, signed and approved by your doctor. Employees were given a meeting and a woman from disease control said our shots were to make sure no employee passed the flu to a patient. I asked if there were documented cases where this had transpired and she completely avoided the question. After the meeting was over, a higher up I knew in the hospital told me to answer the question, no, no circumstance like that had been reported. Joint Commission was behind this change in mandating the flu shot, which previously you could opt out of due to religious reasons as well. The hospital would not receive medicaid/medicare reimbursement unless 90 percent of our staff were given the flu vaccine. In the past, we hadn’t reached 60 percent so they had to make it mandatory. I was pregnant at the time and unless I wanted to lose my job and my insurance be December 14th, I had to bring a signed vaccination form from my OBGYN stating a reason I couldn’t have the shot. My OBGYN said there was no reason I shouldn’t get a flu shot, she claims the ones in her office are single vial and therefore don’t pose a threat to me or my unborn child, and wouldn’t sign any waiver. I have since left that job. I had put up with all other mandated vaccinations and tests, but the flu shot I think is unfounded and potentially dangerous for nothing. Just money for someone’s pockets and leaving even the hospital with no choice since over half our patients are medicaid payers.
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Choice and autonomy seem to be a disappearing value of our culture.  We’re treated like children instead of adults with the ability to make our own decisions impacting our lives. There is plenty of evidence of vaccine injury without a lot of evidence to support vaccine claims.  I have yet to see evidence that if I don’t get vaccinated, and I get sick, that I will infect someone whom has been vaccinated–doesn’t that fly in the face of vaccine immunity?  If someone is vaccinated, and they develop antibodies, are they not protected against getting a disease?  If not, then the vaccine doesn’t really work, does it?

 

Cooper Harris

I was watching CNN’s coverage of the hearing for Justin Ross Harris, the Georgia father who left his child, Cooper, in a car during a hot Georgia day, claiming he “forgot” his child.

The hearing barely began and this guy’s actions revealed a depraved person.

As police officer Stoddard described Ross’ actions–he was more worried about how this death affected him, instead of how his poor child suffered. Same reaction in the courtroom that day–he sat emotionless as the police officer described Cooper’s condition upon arrival.  Nothing from this guy…until a witness began describing Justin’s reactions that day–which I’m leaning towards as staged–especially after learning that both Justin and his wife were doing internet searches on kids left in hot cars.

When I was watching Alex Hall testify, I was struck by his lack of emotion, also.  I mean, this is the son of your buddy, wouldn’t that make you cry that this poor child suffered and  is now dead?

I have not been for the death penalty for a long time, but this case is making me reexamine that–as they described poor Cooper with his eyes and mouth open and claw marks down his face as he evidently was suffering and unable to escape that oven–I want Justin and his wife to suffer as Cooper did.  I know I’m just being emotional right now, but God, I want them to be locked in a car with no ability to escape and suffer as he did.

I cannot even wrap my brain around such depravity.

Why not give the child up for adoption if you no longer wanted to parent him?  No, these narcissist sociopaths could not allow that…they wanted the life insurance money.