I think this is entirely appropriate for you:
Order of the White Feather has a sobering post up on using technology to continually abuse and control a partner seeking to get away from her abuser. It is just astounding that someone could think up this sh*t (probably an abuser himself), and then be able to sell it without worry of prosecution.
The companies market the tools as “safety features” to monitor your kids….it always starts out that way–marketed for something good when it’s used for something evil. I don’t buy mSpy’s assertion that they have no knowledge or responsibility for their product being used for abuse.
MSpy has a step-by-step guide — with screenshots — on how to download the app onto an iPhone or Android device, how to activate it, and then how to delete any visible trace of it. It’ll just hang out in a hidden folder, with a nondescript name like “Android.sys.”
Why would you need to hide it if you were using it for innocent reasons? I don’t understand the parents-as-stalkers mindset, either. Good Grief, the poor children with such controlling parents, monitoring every single thing they do! Suffocating.
And the online banking thing…one of the reasons I will not do it is because of security. I had to close my free account recently because the bank insisted on a $500 balance, or I could switch to online banking and not deal with the humans at all (putting another person out of work is not my idea of doing unto others as I would have done to me…).
This story drives that point home–no matter how much they would like to assure us that technology = security…the facts speak differently. Paper is still more secure, with less ability of someone gaining access to information that is none of their business.
And in this case, someone’s life depends on it.
In this rape culture, women are still seen as extensions of men. As objects to be owned and possessed. The domestic abuse represents that sense of entitlement.
Has claimed that she was handcuffed because of racism. She was kissing her white boyfriend in public and was handcuffed….when she refused to give identification.
I don’t know if race is involved. I know that this nearly happened to me in Fort Wayne when I refused to give my social security number or my birthdate to an out of control fire fighter.
She was absolutely within her Fourth Amendment rights not to give her identification if she was not being arrested. I have paralegal training, and the attorney teaching the class on the Fourth Amendment told us that unless we were under arrest, we did not have to give out any information, and did not have to have our persons or our vehicles searched without our permission. He said all the client had to do was ask if they were under arrest.
This Amendment was put into place to protect us from a police state–so we would not become Russia, China, or Nazi Germany.
In my case, I was the Fire Captain of my five story building. I was the one who jumped out of bed at 2 a.m. when the fire alarm went off. I would communicate to the fire dept and to our maintenance on-call person that everything was okay…or not.
On this particular day, someone had set off the alarm three times that day. I called off the fire dept each time, but for some reason, they showed up anyway at the third instance.
I was already back in my apartment when I got a knock on the door from one of the residents telling me the fire dept was here and wanted to speak with me.
The fire fighter immediately began accusing me of setting off the alarm, of making a false report, and other stuff that i can’t remember at the moment. He said he was going to shut this building down. Then he demanded to know my soc. sec. number. I refused. He then demanded my birthdate, which I also refused, as I had done before with the other fire fighters. Alarm bells were going off in my head by this guy’s irrational behavior, and I started to walk away.
He threatens that he is going to call the police as I was walking down the hall. He does.
Three squad cars pull up within minutes. Three.
They, too, were bullying me into giving up personal information that they had no right to. I didn’t set off any alarm, only reported what I saw, as was required of my job.
This went on for an hour. They intimidated me to the point I was in tears. I finally had to give this arrogant, irrational fire fighter my birthdate…because they threatened me with jail if I did not.
Afterwards, the police officer sarcastically said, “There, was that so hard?”
I said that it was none of the firefighter’s business.
He then shot back that I should not be the Fire Captain if I did not want to give out that info.
I had been a reliable Captain. I gave up nights and weekends to be in the building when the staff was gone. I sure the hell didn’t need this grief.
And I’m not down on the fire fighters. They’re good guys, for the most part.
One of them even quietly thanked me for standing up to this creep.
And, no, racism wasn’t involved in this–I am white, the fire fighter and all of the police man were white. It’s a civil rights issue, for sure.
When I saw the video on MSNBC Friday of Michael Brown stealing from a store, and shoving the clerk by the throat…and then threatening him with more of it…I had to take a step back. I knew that if I came on here, I would say something I’d regret because I feel that I was played for a chump.
And then I hear on the news yesterday morning that they trashed the convenience store that Michael stole cigars from.
Outrageous. Now the owner of the store has been victimized again. Does he/she deserve that?
I watched Melissa Harris-Perry this morning, and got upset again. I know this is close to home for her, but to deny Michael’s criminal behavior and how that played a roll in what happened is disingenuous. She insisted that people’s rights were being violated by the curfew. Don’t the people who own businesses there also deserve to be protected? They are not saying folks cannot protest at all–they are protesting during the day. With the looting, I feel the curfew is justified. No matter how angry you are, that does not give you the right to steal. Nor is being poor give you a right to steal. I can speak to that because I’m poor and been on food stamps, so I’ve felt the sting of people’s prejudice.
It upsets me…especially because of what happened to me in Fort Wayne. Flashbacks of how I was essentially shunned by the black folk in the building after reporting the harassment of one of the black men. He was evicted. Others came forward after I filed my report–other women….black women–were also intimidated and harassed by him. Some of them just accepted it as “just the way things are” and refused to file a report (probably afraid she would be shunned). Another black lady whom had run the cafeteria reduced cost meal program was intimidated by him so much that she just gave him free food. I suspect that the other black folk came down on her for speaking out–she left not six months after the guy was evicted. The others didn’t care what this guy had done–and that disturbs me to this day.
I now question the validity of Michael’s friend who was with him when he robbed the convenience store…he should have come forward with this information from the start. The fact that he and everyone else kept it hidden speaks volumes.
Do I think the officer was justified in shooting Michael multiple times? Hell no.
We have yet to hear what happened, but if the officer was in fear of his life, that is the only justification. The convenience store video lends credibility to the officer stating that Michael struck him, causing his face to swell. And perhaps he was trying to get the officer’s gun…I’m not as inclined to believe Michael’s friend’s account of what happened.
I’m hoping that in the coming weeks, we get at the truth.
This piece is so slanted I nearly fell off my chair reading it….
Rabbi Shmuley chooses to ignore President Carter’s monumental act of getting Egypt and Israel to broker a peace deal…a peace that has lasted decades. And the hostages deal is a cheap shot. They were deliberately held so that Reagan could claim victory…a piece of history that strangely is never reported by the brain-dead media.
Rabbi Shmuley chooses to ignore the interference of food, water, jobs, paychecks, and the ability to earn a living that Israel has imposed on the Palestinians…leaving them little choice. He also ignores Israelis’ own bloody history of killing innocents to gain control of what was once Palestinian land. And he ignores Palestinian wishes for a two-state solution.
Carter states in the video that he does not agree with bad things Hamas has done.
A voice that was silenced by those proclaiming to be progressive and open-minded weren’t quite so much when put to the test. It’s not hard to see why when you read this article blasting Hillary Clinton. There’s a powerful push to get her into office, despite the coy “I haven’t decided” b.s. that she is spewing. I’ve said it before, but I’m sick of Clintons and Bushes in the White House. Time for a real change for a politician that actually speaks up for the “little people” who don’t have big lobbyists, big PACs, nor big money to influence Washington.
DN! interviewed Henry Siegman, a rabbi that represents strong Jewish organizations and what he had to say regarding the bombing of Gaza will blow you away.
For one thing, he doesn’t believe Hamas is any more a terrorist organization than Israeli fighters were when they fought to take the land away from the Palestinians to form their own state. They killed innocents to take the land away.
And now they want to deny the Palestinians that same right to a land they can call their own without interference by Israel.
While I’m watching this segment, I’m thinking of my continuing studies on religions–just for the record–every single major religion: Christian, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, has blood on their hands for killing innocents.
“Kill them all, and let God sort them out…” seems to be a common theme throughout history.
Only, “do unto others as you wish to be done to you” doesn’t quite fit into that thinking.
Self-defense, in my view, is the only legitimate excuse for killing another. And that is only after all other avenues have been taken–such as diplomacy. Or poking the stick to keep one at arm’s length. Trying self-defense without intent to kill (like martial arts).
But diplomacy is becoming a lost art. It’s easy to just drop a bomb and believe that will end it, but in reality, it just creates more problems. Peace isn’t easy–compromise and humility are key factors in creating and sustaining Peace. Being humble isn’t valued in this society–it’s seen as weakness or worse–low self-esteem, when in reality, it is a recognition that we are part of Creation, and even though we are all important in that we bring our own uniqueness to the world, we are also a small part of that world and it takes all of us to make the world go ’round.