I listened to the President’s speech yesterday — a historic day in Selma. Transcript here.
It was no doubt the beginning of recognition of inequality for African Americans. The country woke up.
But as I listened to the President’s speech, i became very uneasy. During the speech, he mentioned Seneca Falls, where the women’s rights movement started…in 1848….long before the African American movement started. So I was taken aback at the statement that women “walked through the doors” that African Americans opened up. It was insulting to say that African Americans were responsible for women’s freedom. If anything, black men have kept black women down –Shirley Chisholm said as much in the video I previously posted. From my own experience, black women will not stand up to a man whom is harassing her, as I experienced…they feel unempowered in that respect. And Bill Cosby is the best example of it.
Women had been fighting for equality for decades before Selma. Women could not own property…truly, they were treated as property by the law.
It was through the bravery of Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Lucretia Mott that women were beginning to be recognized as persons in their own right. They endured severe harassment. They were pelted with eggs and tomatoes as they marched for the right to vote. Where’s the CNN or MSNBC commemoration of the women’s rights movement? Oh, that’s right, they don’t celebrate it. Or if they did, it will become something entirely different than what Mott and Stanton had experienced. No doubt, Hillary Clinton, the faux feminist, would be prominently featured. And every little girl watching that would think destroying the environment with pimping for Big Oil and Monsanto, and otherwise embracing culture instead of nature (masculine versus the feminine) is what it was all about. It would become a sick, twisted form of devaluing the feminine, instead of embracing it.
…such as we have seen with the “marketing” of breast cancer. Why don’t they use that money to fight pollution and a toxic environment, which are the main causes of breast cancer…well, any cancer?? I have now heard two stories of people stricken with Stage IV cancer, whom began juicing and de-chemicalizing their environment, who recovered. Amazing, isn’t it? So why don’t we hear that when all these “helpful” people at Big Pharma and the agencies who rake in the donations…..oh, wait, I answered my own question…
And the President began to go into “campaign mode” …talking again about the importance of fathers. It is insulting to single mothers everywhere who do the day-in-day-out work of raising children to be once again stigmatized as drags on society. Having *any* father is not a guarantee that a child will grow up healthy and happy. John Wayne Gacy had two parents at home. It’s a myth that any father is better than none at all — an abusive father can do so much damage to a child’s psychological development…as we know now that domestic violence is connected to war, to continuing the abuse cycle, to self-esteem, to bullying, lack of empathy, and on.
Truly, it is poverty that will determine how well a child does in life. And who is paid less than men? Fired when they become pregnant? Not given adequate time off after having a baby? Or for workers in general, who are not paid good enough wages so that one parent can stay home with the children until they are of school age?
Finally, the rigid roles introduced after World War II really set us back centuries (thank you, Sigmund Freud). Girls played with dolls. Boys played with trucks. And if anyone dared cross those lines…well the questions would begin…what is wrong with that child? We have to stop this independent action…must have order….must enforce rigid rules.
I think if boys were allowed to develop the side that includes empathy, the world would be back in balance. Instead of stigmatizing mothers, their contribution to society should be recognized.