Fifty Shades of hurting women

Abby Zimet thankfully has a post up on Fifty Shades of Grey and the truth behind this movie.  I won’t see it as I’ve seen the glorification of hurting women (porn) during the 60s and 70s, where women were given this line that sex was “freeing” and that they were “repressed” so they needed to become uninhibited and have sex with many men.  Only it didn’t quite work out that way…as wise women came to realize that it was the men benefiting from this mindset, and the women ended up used and abused.

It’s really the opposite of the line women were told —  empowerment is in not having sex.  She gets to decide with whom and when or not at all.  Like the photo to the right by the feminist father –her body, her rules.

I think this film is a dangerous “next step” to legitimizing brutality towards women.  Not that it’s not condoned, if by silence if nothing else, but this is putting it in the mainstream….numbing those seeing it to the violence.  Once you’re numb to violence, it makes it easier to commit–as we have seen with violent video games.

I’ve lived through this increasing violence towards women put out in the mainstream, and it scares the hell out of me.  It’s the gradual acceptance of women as objects to do something to.

To illustrate this, when I was at the university, my emerging technologies (why is it always the techies?) professor got up in front of these impressionable 18-22 year olds and told them to invest in pornography….because they know how to make money.  He seriously said that.  The fact that he felt perfectly comfortable saying something like that, along with other professors saying and doing things that were sexually overt, leads to the conclusion that porn has become socially acceptable, even though it clearly demeans women (and men).  This is not a positive expression of sexuality.   Nor of respecting women as human beings.


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